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Jealous? Who is jealous?

A lot of people pretend they are not jealous, but, let’s face the fact, we all are jealous! Some just a little and some a little bit more. Being jealous is normal, but there are times that things get serious and can even harm your relationship. We even catch ourselves being jealous for no reason. And this is not good.

Here are some tips that will help you and your relationship overcome this bad “habit”:

1. Recognize that you are jealous
This is very important. You need to acknowledge that you are jealous and your partner should know this. When you are at a bar and your guy is talking to or looking at someone else, just say it! Instead of being angry or nervous, say that you don’t like that gesture and he will listen to you. This will help you both.

2. Focus on your relationship
Every time you are jealous, just remember how beautiful your relationship is. If you catch your guy looking at a pretty girl, relax! It’s ok! You have done it, too. You can’t stop someone from seeing what’s around. You, too, may have looked at a handsome guy, but this doesn’t mean anything at all. Try not to be negative and enjoy the moments you are together.
3. Wonder “why am I jealous?”
Sometimes, you don’t even have a reason to be jealous. Maybe, you’ve been hurt before, maybe someone cheated on you in the past, that’s why you are jealous, but this has nothing to do with your new relationship. If someone lied to you, this doesn’t mean that everybody is gonna lie to you. All you need to do is trust your man and let it all go.

4. Think twice
When you are jealous, the only thing you want to do is start yelling at your man. No! Just try to calm down and think twice before you react. Think if it’s worth the fight. When we are angry, we often say things that we regret saying, so pay attention. Try to calm down and when you are sober, start a conversation. Don’t make thoughtless decisions.

5. Take all the scenarios off your head
When he is at work, you start creating a lot of scenarios in your mind: that he is cheating on you, that he is flirting with his new assistant, that he is not in the meeting but somewhere else with someone else etc. All these are poisoning you and ruining your life. You need to believe in your realtionship. If you have any worries, just go and tell him. It’s better than creating all these terrifying scenarios in your head. You’ll see that after opening your heart and sharing all your worries and “fears”, you will both feel better.

6. Imagine there is a third person looking at you
When we are jealous, we don’t think clear- headed. We say things that we don’t mean and that we regret saying. Have you ever been in a situation where a couple fights because someone of them is being jealous? What had you thought then? When you are a third person and you see a situation from the outside, you can think more clearly and be more sensible. So, next time you are going to fight for such a thing, ask yourself “What would I think if…?”

Your first date? DOs and DONTs

The day has come! Your first date with the guy you met at the coffee shop is tomorrow and you can’t wait to see him! That is so sweet! We know you are nervous, but you don’t have to. Really! Follow our advice and your first date with the guy will be the date you will remember for a long time:

 

1.       Make a smart reservation. For your first date, you need a quiet place where you can talk and know each other better. Try not to meet in a crowded place where you will end up understanding nothing from your talk.

2.       Be simple and beautiful. You don’t need an extravagant makeup to look beautiful. Emphasize on your strong characteristics, not all of them.

3.       Wear something that will make you feel comfortable. Choose something classy and don’t forget your favorite jewelry. And remember, your look should fit with the hour and place of the date.

4.       Be yourself. Don’t even think to pretend you are someone else. Show him the real you, because if you don’t, you will be another person later on.

5.       Make a dialogue. Remember, you are on a date. You cannot only talk about yourself! Ask him about his life and ambitions. He will appreciate that!

6.       Feel free to express your opinion. You may not have the same points of view but this does not mean that you have to agree with him. Express yourself and make an interesting conversation.

7.       Aim to another date. If you both had a good time, he will ask you to another date! And if he doesn’t, feel free to do it. If you liked him, why not? Self-confidence, yeah!

 

 

Things you should never be self-conscious about in a relationship

When you’re in a good relationship, you’re not worried about small things, or heck, even the medium-sized things turning into icebergs that send your romance plummeting downwards into its watery grave. But sometimes, even in a good relationship, you find yourself on shaky ground. Being open about things your self-conscious about can be scary, especially when you really like someone. Then there’s the chance your partner isn’t as tolerant as he or she should be, or that the dynamic you’ve established limits you both from opening up, completely.

It’s OK, you can totally work through those issues. But the first step is identifying what may feel out-of-bounds, and tackling those insecurities head-on. Here are a handful of things you should never worry about addressing in your relationship. Breaking through these issues may be hard at first, but they’ll only make you two stronger in the long run.

1)Getting into a fight

Whenever couples are like “We’ve NEVER had a fight,” I’m like “Good for you, you’re either the two most perfect people ever or you’re not talking about the stuff that needs to be talked about.” In a good relationship, you can pick your battles and you can fight them and it will be okay because none of the things you squabble about will be bigger than your love for one other. Just make sure the fights don’t get spiteful or truly mean. It’s OK to have a difference of opinion, but don’t try to take the other person down in the process.

2.)Your Body

Sometimes when I am standing in my underwear in front of the mirror and my husband is nearby, I have to actively force myself to not stare at my body with hate eyes because he loves my body/me and gets exasperated when I pick on myself like a middle school bully. Your person loves the way you look, that’s why they CHOSE you, so no self-loathing for you today, little missy!

3.)Bodily functions (you know what we’re talking about)

I remember reading teen magazines back in the day and there was like always a page about first date horror stories where the girl threw up on the guys shoes or audibly farted and the guy NEVER CALLED HER AGAIN. Which is so dumb, like, what, Random Dude, you have never experienced any of these bodily functions ever? Are you a Skynet Terminator, are you a Princess Leia hologram, what ARE you? In a good relationship, if your body does its thing, your sweetheart should laugh good-naturedly, and if your body really isn’t feeling up to snuff, your honey should take care of you, and that’s just the way it should be.

4.)Possessing an opinion

This is related to fighting, but it’s also its own separate thing. When you are in an awesome relationship you are allowed to rant and rave about the things you love and hate without being made to feel even one percent weird about it. This is why your sweetheart LIKES you, because you are so powerfully and specifically and undeniably YOU.

5.) Having a bad day

You have to lie to the barista at Starbucks and say you’re having a good day, you may have to tell your co-workers that everything is fine, but with your honey, you do not have to pretend like those cartoon storm clouds hanging over your head don’t, you know, exist.

6.) Failure

You feel the overwhelming pressure to be Wonder Woman in the eyes of the world and have an explanation/story/excuse for every personal and professional setback you’ve faced, but you don’t need to pull out the song and dance for your sweetheart. You’re allowed to feel sad and angry and frustrated and disappointed with this person. You’re allowed to talk about how you’re jealous of your friends or how you feel sorry for yourself. Your significant other should never make you feel like a failure, but you’re allowed to admit to this person when you feel like one.

Love somebody who..

When you fall in love make sure it’s with somebody who treats you exactly how yo deserve to be treated.Love somebody who wants to know everything about you, from your favorite color to your childhood memories to how you managed to survive all those years.

Love somebody who makes you lough. Love somebody who kisses you forehead. Love somebody who notices you all flaws buy chooses to see past them. Love somebody who listens to whatever is on your mind.  Love somebody who always reminds you how blessed they are to have found you. Love somebody who you cant stay mad at for on hour because you miss speaking to them. Love somebody who knows every freckle on your face, every stretch mark on your thighs, every scare and every tear.

LOVE somebody who you can plan a future with. And most importantly, love somebody who makes you question why you were so afraid to fall in love in first place. Don’t forget to make them feel loved in return.

I know it is difficult to find the right person but they exist, just be open-minded when you will find this person don’t let him go! 🙂

5 signs that your man is cheating on you

If you find out that your man is cheating on you, what will you do? Have you ever thought about it? Well, it happens to a lot of couples and there are plenty of reasons why this happens. First of all, a man cheats on his wife when he doesn’t feel emotionally connected to her. True, because men are more emotional than women (yes they are) and when they feel insecure or that they’re not being appreciated by their own wife, then they seek for it to another lover. Men sometimes need to be treated like children: they need love, support, hugs, they need someone to guide them.
A man may cheat on his wife when he feels bored, too. Women usually “forget” their men and spend less time with them because they are busy with work, kids, shopping, housework etc. Men need their women’s attention and love. If they don’t get it then they find love to someone else.

Furthermore, men need to be treated like winners. They need rewards for everything they do or achieve. When wifes don’t care about their mens’ achievements or don’t even thank them for something, then men start feeling down. It is normal, everyone would feel so. This could be a reason why men start cheating.

It is weird, but men won’t start cheating because they met a woman more beautiful than their wife. No! They just need support. Beauty doesn’t matter. They fell in love with someone not because she is beautiful, but because she is kind, sweet and supportive. This is very important. When you are “a model” but you don’t appreciate your man and you are not there for him, then he won’t care about you, too.

After all these, you start wondering if your man cheats on you, right? There are some “signs” that show this. Check them out:

1.He is away from home most of the time
2.He doesn’t make love to you that often
3.He doesn’t answer your phone calls
4.He criticizes you more than ever
5.He talks about his new colleque all the time: how nice she is, smart, cooperative etc.
Think about all the above. Your man cheats on and you find it out. How would you react? Remember that you are a couple. Maybe it’s your fault that he did this to you. And if you are married then things are more serious than you imagine. Try not to be unfair and think twice before you act.

9 Relationship Stages That All Couples Go Through

Wondering what relationship stage you’re in right now? Here are the 9 relationship stages that all couples go through, no matter how the love starts. By Elizabeth Arthur

Relationships are unique.

And one experience of love is never ever the same.

You may have been in several relationships in your life, and all of them may have been very different from the earlier one.

But there are a few traits about every single relationship that binds all relationships along a similar path.

Relationship stages in your love life

Relationships, just like life, have their own stages. It starts off with infatuation and goes through several stages along the way.And these stages are like tests that check your compatibility with each other.Go wrong anywhere along the way, and your relationship will take the brunt of the fall.

Have you ever met a couple who seemed like they were going to stay together forever, but ended up breaking up a few years later?Perhaps, in all probability, they went wrong in one of these stages of the relationship

Stage #1 The infatuation stage

This is the first stage in every relationship. It almost always starts with an intense attraction and an uncontrollable urge to be with each other. Both of you may be intensely  attracted to each other, or both of you may just love the cuddles and each other’s company. In this stage, both of you overlook any flaws of each other and only focus on the good sides.

Stage #2 The understanding stage.

In this stage, both of you start getting to know each other better. You have long conversations with your partner that stretches late into the night, and everything about your partner interests and fascinates you. You talk about each other’s families, exes, likes and dislikes and other innocent secrets, and life seems so beautiful and romantic.

Stage #3 The stage of disturbances.

This stage usually forces its way into a happy romance after a few months of blissful courting. Do you remember the first fight or angry disagreement you and your partner had? For the first time ever in the relationship, both of you confront each other over a conflict, even though it’s sorted out quickly.

Stage #4 The opinion maker.

In this stage, both of you create opinions about each other. As the months pass by, both of you know what to expect from each other, and you make an assumption about your partner’s commitment towards the relationship.

When these opinions and expectations about your partner differ now and then in real life, it can either leave you ecstatic or depressed.

You don’t expect your man to buy you flowers, but he does. You feel ecstatic. At the same time, you expect him to pick you up from the airport on time. But he arrives an hour later because he forgot all about picking you up. It depresses you.

Stage #5 The moulding stage.

You have your own expectations from an ideal partner. And in this stage, both of you try hard to mould each other to fit your own wants in a perfect partner. This stage is a lot about give and take, and both partners constantly try to subtly convince each other to change their behavior towards the relationship. This is a power struggle, and one that can end the relationship if both partners are domineering. 

9 simply ways to tighten your skin after weight loss

No doubt, weight loss is a big thing. You try hard to lose some pounds and then you try even harder to tighten your skin, which is much more important. Sagging skin may be the result of losing weight so you should be prepared to deal with it. There are some ways that can help you tighten your skin so cheer up and get started:

1.Eat food that keep your skin elastic
Fish, nuts, beans and seeds should be from now on your favorite. They contain vitamins C, K, E, A along with zinc and selenium and they promote the production of collagen,too, which helps keep your skin elastic.

2.Stay hydrated

Water is life. You should drink one to two litres of water everyday in order to keep your skin elastic. Drinking water is benefitious not only for your skin but for all your body and health in general. So, drink as much as you can. Start today!

3.Protect yourself from the sun

You know you should apply your sunscreen to your face, neck and hands even when it’s cloudy, right? Protecting your skin from the UV sunlight and tanning booths is of high importance. If you don’t pay attention your skin will get loose so think twice if you want to go to the tanning salon this week.

4.Keep your muscles toned
Losing weight means also losing muscle mass. You should keep your muscles toned by building them back up and this will fill out the space that was left from the fat lost. Go back to gym girl!
Brush your skin

Another way to tighten your skin is by exfoliating and brushing it everyday. If you do so, your blood supply will be increased and new skin sells will be grown. You can do it when you wake up and you will see the difeerence in your skin and in your mood, too!

5.Enjoy massage

Massage increases the blood flow and this helps your skin be more elastic. Treat yourself to a massage once, or twice if you have time, a week and just relax and enjoy it.

6.Love butter!

Massage your skin with cocoa butter or shea butter daily and you will see your skin more tightened and moisturised than ever. Despite that, they smell so beautiful that you will let yourself go.

7.Eat protein

Turkey, chicken and fish contain proteins which help you rebuild your muscles and bring elasticity back into your skin. Once again, what are you going to eat for lunch?

8.Use natural oils for massage

Your skin needs to be moisturised so the best way to do it is by using natural oils like olive oil, sweet almond oil, sesame seed oil, coconut oil and jojoba oil. Massaging with these oils not only moisturise your skin but keep it moisturised for longer. What are you waiting for?

9.Start eating raw food

Raw foods increase the vitamins and minerals that you take from your everyday meals and keep your skin tightened. So, next time you are going to eat vegetables don’t cook them. Eat them raw.

8 Homemade Hair Treatments

For All Hair Types

Eggs, yogurt and honey are, at first glance, all components of a tasty breakfast—but they also happen to be hair treatment ingredients, and affordable, all-natural ones at that. And they’re not the only ones. Did you know, for instance, that the oils in avocados more closely resemble our own skin’s oils than any product in the beauty aisle does? Or that the mild acidity in lemon is an effective—and gentler—alternative to chemical-laden products? Next time your locks need a lift, save money by using one of these kitchen fixes.

“Theegg is really the best of all worlds,” says Janice Cox, author of Natural Beauty at Home. The yolk, rich in fats and proteins, is naturally moisturizing, while the white, which contains bacteria-eating enzymes, removes unwanted oils, she explains.

To Use: For normal hair, use the entire egg to condition hair; use egg whites only to treat oily hair; use egg yolks only to moisturize dry, brittle hair, Cox says. Use 1/2 cup of whichever egg mixture is appropriate for you and apply to clean, damp hair. If there isn’t enough egg to coat scalp and hair, use more as needed. Leave on for 20 minutes, rinse with cool water (to prevent egg from “cooking”) and shampoo hair. Whole egg and yolks-only treatments can be applied once a month; whites-only treatment can be applied every two weeks.

For Dull Hair

Styling products (as well as air pollution) can leave a film that both saps moisture and dulls shine—but dairy products like sour cream and plain yogurt can help reverse this damage. “Lactic acid gently strips away dirt while the milk fat moisturizes,” says Lisa Belkin, author of The Cosmetics Cookbook.

To Use: Massage 1/2 cup sour cream or plain yogurt into damp hair and let sit for 20 minutes. Rinse with warm water, followed by cool water, then shampoo hair as you normally would. Treatment can be applied every other week.

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