At one point, I thought things would get better between the three of us (my husband, his baby mama and I). I thought we could come to an agreement for the child. At this point, I believe in the statement “Things get worse before they get better”. Let me break it down for you…
My Husband and I have been married since 2008. We were High School sweethearts, and before us getting married we already had two children together. During the time we were apart we both saw other people (The Rebounds). Long story short, he had another child (#3 for him). Before the child, he had with Ms. Rebound; she also had two other children from different men (3 “baby daddies” total). Neither one of those fathers were active in their kid’s lives (no child support, visits, NOTHING). My husband only stayed with her for the child (so he says). They stayed together during her pregnancy and a little over a year after that. My husband is a “Stand Up Guy” who filed Child Support on himself shortly after we split, and he had his third child added as soon as he was born (he & Rebound were still together). He has paid Child Support since day one. He always did his part with our kids and hers. I never kept my kid’s from their Father, EVER!
So, after things did not work out between the two of them, they split, and we eventually got back together. Honestly, we hooked up a few times during both of our relationships with other people (always safe), but that was up until he told me about the other baby. We got back together maybe a month or so after he split with Ms. Rebound. A year later we got married, and one year after that we had our third child together. THIS IS REALLY WHEN ALL HELL BREAKS LOOSE!
They were supposed to have an agreement as far as the child was concerned. Unfortunately, Ms. Rebound knew the only way to get to my husband was through their son. So she started saying we couldn’t pick him, you’ll never see him again, blah, blah, blah. Then she would send text messages to our phones just wanting to pick her son up for no reason. She would also makeup lies to tell the daycare which would cause them not to allow my husband to go there and see his son. She would keep him away for weeks at a time but when she would call she’d expect him to jump, when he didn’t jump that would infuriate her more. This went on for two years. I know you are probably thinking “why didn’t your Husband just get a Court Order to see his son?” I use to ask him all the time too. The only defense I have is that he is such a non-confrontational…Okay, I have nothing. He says “we will pray about it,” but I think it takes more than just prayer. Don’t get me wrong prayer + action = results *shrugs* well that’s what I always say.