10 tips for keeping your marriage alive

1.       Trust

The key to a healthy relationship is trust. When you love someone you have to trust him, believe in every word he says and makes him feel free. For example, when your mate wants to go for a drink with friends, there is no need to worry. You may be married, but this doesn’t mean that you have to forget about anyone else. Both of you want to spend time on your own or/and with your friends. This is normal.

2.       Interest

You have to show your mate your attention and care in every chance. Ask him about his day, his work, his worries, spend time together and avoid neglecting each other. A good idea is to wake up earlier in the morning and take your time together. You ‘ll see that you will have a better day this way!

3.       Attraction

Of course, you have to attractive. Remember when you first met and started dating. You always wanted to look beautiful and charming. Right? Why don’t you do the same thing now? There is no doubt that he loves you the way you are, but it is nice when he smells your favorite perfume or when he sees you in your red dress. Think about it!

4.       Renewal

Going a short trip only the two of you, planning your holidays, eating a romantic dinner in your favorite restaurant are some good examples or renewing your marriage. Being together for a lot of years is not easy, so you have to do things that will keep that sparkle shining.

5.       Initiatives

Try to be sweet and kind with your mate as at the beginning of your relationship. Tell him how much you love him, surprise him with something beautiful, make a small gift or even write him a poet. Taking initiatives is very important because by this way you show your man that you still love him and that you want him to be happy.

6.       Fantasy

Avoid doing the same things every day. Try some new stuff, use your imagination and do things that you are both excited about. For example start playing roles while you are at home, like start pretending you don’t know each other or start flirting. This will help you, guaranty!

7.       Respect

You need to be mature and show respect to your mate. You chose your man to spend the rest of your life with him. This means you love him, so you have to respect him, too. Don’t underestimate him and avoid being bossy. You have to respect him if you want to respect you back.

8.       Communication

Lack of communication may cause a lot of problems in your relationship. If you don’t talk with your mate about your interests, fears, issues or if you don’t understand each other (even worse if you don’t try) then you ‘d better start worrying. Communication and understanding play critical roles in a happy relationship.

9.       Common Interests

It is great when you and your mate have the same interests, and you should take advantage of it. Go out and watch your favorite movies, book your tickets for your next trip or hang out with friends. Imagine being in a relationship with your mate not wanting to come with you or coming with you only because he had to. Not nice!

10.   Sociability

Being social, friendly and outgoing can help encourage your relationship. For example, if you like hanging out with his friends or with his relatives, go ahead and do it. He will appreciate the fact that you try to stay close to his loved ones.

Nicki Minaj and Meek Mill’s ‘Fairy Tale Wedding’ Will Probably Happen ‘Sooner Rather Than Later’

With news of Nicki Minaj‘s (probable) engagement, we can’t help but start hearing wedding bells… And apparently, she can’t either!
In fact, Minaj and Meek Mill will probably end up getting married quicker than we expect — similar to their whirlwind engagement after only dating for four months.

A source tells E! News, “The wedding will likely happen sooner rather then later, it’s just how their relationship has been going. Nicki has been waiting for this special day for some time and Meek wants to make it perfect and a fairy tale come true for her. This is such an exciting time in her life.”

And as for the engagement? “The way this went down was more personal and private between them,” the insider adds.

Something way less secret, though, is her massive engagement ring she shared on Instagram yesterday. In the shape of a heart with yellow and white diamonds, jewelry experts are estimating it probably cost Meek Mill somewhere around $500K.

With a ring like that, we can only imagine what the wedding will entail!

Source:.celebuzz.com

Ready For A Ring? Find Out What Men Look for When Choosing A Wife

Believe it or not, women aren’t the only one’s with a checklist of traits they look for in a partner.  Although it may not be written down, men have a mental list of what they will and will not tolerate in a relationship as well.

Take a look at these traits men look for in a wife….

1. Honest communication

Honest communication is top priority for men. They want a woman who answers questions honestly, and even volunteers information. They want a woman who can see the truth, stand up for themselves and tell it like it is.

2. Secure and Confident

Men want a woman to choose them out of want rather than out of desperation.  Women tend to jump in and out of relationships more often than the opposite sex, because they crave attention and adoration.  In the same way, men need to be wanted and needed by their partners, but they want their partners to have a separate identity. It’s important that women have their own friends and interests.

9 Types Of People Who Simply Aren’t Marriage Material

He’s perfect for you… but he has an excuse every time you invite him to meet your friends and family. She’s everything you’ve ever wanted in a partner… but she’s hyper-critical of all the decisions you make.

It’s easy to disregard your reservations when you’ve found someone who seems perfect for you on paper. But trusting your instincts in the beginning of a relationship could save you a tremendous amount of hurt down the road.

Below, relationship experts offer nine types of people who just aren’t marriage material.

1. The flake.
The two of you have so much in common and the chemistry is undeniable. You can’t wait until the next date — whenever that will be; it’s damn near impossible to get him to pencil in time for you. The last thing you need is someone who comes in and out of your life but never really commits, said Brenda Della Casa, the author of Cinderella Was a Liar: The Real Reason You Can’t Find (or Keep) a Prince.

“They might tell you to be patient or to ‘trust’ them, but you’re probably feeling more anxiety than butterflies,” she said. “You have an instinct for a reason and it’s OK to trust and protect yourself in relationships. Those who want to be with you will make adjustments and those who want to be with you out of convenience will fall by the wayside when you set strong boundaries in place.”

2. The too-much-too-soon type.

It’s only date number three and you’ve already been handed a set of keys to her apartment and heard her top five private school choices for your future offspring. That spidey sense you’re picking up, telling you to back away slowly from this person? Listen to it, said Amy Van Doran, a New York City-based matchmaker and founder of The Modern Love Club.

“What’s the rush here? If it’s real, you are not going anywhere. This excitement is less about you, and more about their insecurities and who they are as a person,” she said. “It’s a red flag when they are too effusive with their words and their actions before they get to know you as a person. The second you share their excitement, the whirlwind has already passed and they are onto their next romantic conquest. Time is the best indicator for who a person actually is.”

Our Wedding Was Perfect… For Us

I recently married my live in boyfriend of five years. We had both been married before, (I had been married more than once) and we each had two children. I had a daughter who is 20 and a son who is 17, my husband had a son who is turning 19 next week, and a daughter who is 16. We had been living under one roof for four years, pretty happily actually. We had even gotten to the point (mostly) of just raising the kids as one family, not his or mine.

I’m not sure why we decided to get married instead of just continuing to raise our family. The kids really wanted us to, and I guess we wanted to seem as legitimate to the rest of the world as we already did to each other. I kind of thought we’d go to Vegas, but my husband really wanted to throw a party. He loves a party. He felt we should have a wedding. A real wedding, with music, and a ceremony, and the people we love.

A “real” wedding made me nervous. I was self conscious about getting married again. What would people say? Would they talk behind my back? Would they say mean things about me? Would they criticize me for having another wedding? Should I wear a gown? Was it appropriate? Yikes! So instead of focusing on having a “wedding,” we decided instead to focus on celebrating the family we had built together.

We began by deciding to have the wedding in our back yard. We rented a tent and all of the other stuff you need, but were careful to choose things that looked like we might own them. The florist, a good friend, used vases and framed photos from our house to add to the decorations. We stayed away from anything to “weddingy.” We chose things that made us happy. We didn’t have a theme.

Tina Knowles Weds Boyfriend Richard Lawson

Nearly two years ago, we were so tickled to see Tina Knowles attend Gabrielle’s Angel Foundation’s Angel Ball with a date. The lucky guy turned out to be actor Richard Lawson, Ms. Tina’s boyfriend, and as time went on, we were too thrilled to see that the lovebirds were still going strong. And apparently, things have been going so well between the two that they decided to make things more permanent.

According to TMZ, Knowles, 61, and Lawson, 67, tied the knot during an all-white wedding celebration Sunday in Newport Beach, California. Attendees included Beyoncé, Solange, Jay Z, Alan Ferguson, Blue Ivy, Julez and a host of relatives and friends. The ceremony took place aboard a gorgeous yacht called “Eternity.” Lawson and Knowles have been dating publicly since 2013. It was the second marriage for the both of them.

As for their love story, Tina and Richard have known each other for over thirty years. His sister was actually one of Tina’s best friends, but they did not become romantic until Tina divorced Mathew.

“I’m in a committed relationship with that handsome man!” Tina gushed last October. “And I’m the happiest I’ve been in a long, long time.”

This is amazing news considering what Ms. Tina has been through with her ex. We’re wishing these newlyweds all the best!

Source:madamenoire.com

How to Know if You Should Marry Him

Just because you’re engaged doesn’t mean you should marry your fiance! Here’s how to know if marriage really is the right decision for you – especially if you’re having second thoughts about getting married.

“My fiance and I are due to get married in five weeks,” says A. on How to Let Go of Someone You Love. “He is here on an engagement visa which means we have to be married by Sept 2 or the visa expires and he has to leave. Our problem is that we can’t seem to get on the same page in life.”

Below, she describes the red flags in her relationship – which I think are major for two reasons: 1) she calls it a “tortured, tormented love”; and 2) she wants kids, but he doesn’t.

“We are both 37 and I want a family but he still is unsure if he wants one,” she says. “We love each other very much but we constantly battle over this issue. It’s is a tortured, tormented love. He wants me to say I will marry him with the possibility of giving up my dream of having a family. I know I will resent him for that. I want him to say he loves me enough to have one with me. Should we let each other go and never see each other again? Or, continue on knowing that one of us may be unhappy down the road?”

I think they should let each other go. Here’s why – and my reasons serve as tips for all women, to help them know if they should marry the guys they’re engaged to. A. isn’t alone in her feelings of hesitation and doubt – nor is she the only one second-guessing her engagement!

I Married an American: This Is What I Get

When I met my husband in Suva, Fiji, seven years ago, I did not realize that the day would mark the end of my open admiration of Shania Twain, obsession over corned beef or giving freely without questioning.

I’m Samoan, born and brought up on a fiercely proud tiny island in the middle of the South Pacific. I married an American and I lost a part of who I am. Don’t get me wrong, I love my husband, he is a wonderful man with a good heart and he is an amazing father, but he is American, and a certain type of American, the type who hikes, makes pasta from scratch, reads The Sun magazine, listens to jazz and knows the difference between pinus radiata and pinus ponderosa.

I’m sure many a women would die to have a man like this, who cooks amazing food, is fit, attentive, likes good music and cares about the environment, but this is not what I bargained for. You see, growing up on the island of Savaii, I only knew of Americans through tourists that came to our island, the magazines that somehow found it’s way to Samoa, and from watching the odd movie here and there on the one television screen in our village.

Americans as I saw through these mediums were wrestlers, survivors of the Titanic, Backstreet Boys and Steven Seagull. The man I married was as un-American in my mind as they come, and let me count the ways.

1. He cooks and cleans: The Americans we saw on TV merely ate in fancy restaurants or Casinos when they are not getting shot at by bad guys.

2. He does not eat at McDonalds: Where I’m from, it’s a sign of prestige to eat at McDonalds, where he is from, it is most certainly not a sign of prestige to eat at McDonalds. I am fine with this and willingly support this particular trait.

3. He does not listen to Shania Twain: My husband listens to Jazz, or Latina music, or some sort of blues. In Samoa we sing our own music, we listen to Bob Marley and do not attach socio-economic or political values to music, it’s just music, it does not reflect your personality.

Share