April 7, 2015 sistatalks

5 Signs He’s Not The One

2. No Depth of Connection
Sexual chemistry is great and is definitely important, but that alone can’t sustain a relationship. An amazing s*x life is only one piece of the puzzle, and yet for a lot of couples, it’s the only leg the relationship has to stand on. I know so, so many women who got so engulfed by the intoxicating chemistry they experienced with their partner that they overlooked every sign that clearly showed he wasn’t the one.

For a relationship to last, you need to have a depth of connection. You need to know your partner intimately, and this goes way beyond his bedroom skills. You need to know who he is, what he wants out of life, what his hopes, dreams, and fears are. You need to connect in an honest, unguarded way.

Each person is comprised of many layers. In our lives, some people see the surface layer, a select few see what lies beneath the exterior, and very few see straight to the core. Your life partner should be in the last group.

Knowing the basics about something isn’t knowing who they are. If you know the same things about your guy as most of the other people in his life, then you don’t have much depth of connection.

This issue is one that can be fixed. Try to make an effort to connect to him in a real way. If he resists, or you still don’t feel like you guys are connecting in a significant way, then it means he’s probably not that invested in your or the relationship. Or maybe you’re just not the right fit for one another.

Attraction and s*xual chemistry are never enough to sustain a relationship. If that’s all you have it’s fine, but you might want to move on if you’re serious about finding the one.