Sometimes we cannot talk. We might be legit busy, in the middle of something, or just need a moment before we speak to you. Often, this backfires on us because you’ll then search our social media to determine whether “we have time to get that Twitter jokes off and like comments on Facebook but can’t answer your call”. Other forms of controlled contact are easier than phone calls (Gchat, email, text, etc.) and talking on the phone in certain situations isn’t conducive to a man’s current situation. It’s just more comfortable if you don’t know that the curve was intentional.
Lie # 3: “No, Your Butt Doesn’t Look Big in That”
Look, if you assail him with the question in the first place, you’re just asking to be thrown this all-purpose mollifier. “Every guy has a buddy who’s told him, ‘I answered this question wrong once, and my girlfriend wouldn’t have s*x with me for a year,’ ” Goldsmith says. This is the one sustained response he knows, so there’s no way he’s going to risk the worst by straying from it. If you want an honest opinion, ask one of your girls instead.
I think they covered it well on this point, but I would disagree with this tactic. When you date someone, you shouldn’t aspire to be content with how you look if it is subpar from when you first met. When you’re dating, you want to put your best foot forward. You go to the gym, dress nice, and make sure you’re at your best. Men will want women to be on their game (albeit unrealistically) 24/7. When men can hold themselves accountable too, they will realize that whether women like it or not, we have to be honest when they ask these questions, so that they don’t look crazy in the street. How you answer this determines the impact. If you’re a dick about it and super blunt with no consideration for her feelings, you deserve the backlash. Sometimes backlash comes regardless, so I would always err on the side of comforting but honest commentary.