April 14, 2015 sistatalks

3 Ways to Know if He’s the Real Deal

When you first meet a guy or have simply gone on a few dates with him, it can be hard to tell if he is a truly good guy—or just acting like one until he shows you who he really is. Well, fear not, because there are a few traits to help you understand whether he’s the real deal.

So what are the ultimate traits of a good guy? He is honest, kind, and reliable. If a man has these three traits, he will be successful in each of the areas discussed below. Being careful and cautious about letting him into your life and heart will allow you to keep the bad guys out, leaving room for the good guys who deserve a real chance.

1. Work history.

Hands down, one of the most important factors in determining the quality and character of a guy has to do with his work history. If you want a drama-free romantic future, start with a guy who has a job and knows how to hold onto it. In fact, going to school—undergrad, graduate, or vocational—can count as a job, too, because it shows that he’s committed to getting educated and finding a job that suits him. Sure, some men may be out of work because of the down economy, so don’t hold that against them. What you do want to see with such men, however, is persistence in finding another one. You don’t need to complicate your life by taking care of and providing for a grown man!

Questions to ask:

Many men hate the job question (“What do you do for a living?”), because they fear that women are trying to figure out how much money they make. Rather than ask him what he does for a living, ask him if he likes the work he does or if he’s been in the same job for a long time. Get a sense of whether he loves his job and gets along well with his co-workers. Ask him how he ended up at his job or developed interest in his line of work. A man who is stable at work is often stable in the rest of his life, too.