5. Brief your key speakers/celebrants on anything they need to know about your guests.
This probably sounds like an inane comment, but in actuality I found myself briefing both our celebrant and my mom in regarding what our friends and families would need to know.
4. Which leads me to: trust your guests.
We absolutely trusted that when people showed up, they would embrace the journey –- and they did.
There are a lot of comments on the Offbeat Bride Tribe about how friends and family members wig out when something tests their boundaries of what they think a wedding should be. However, we found that our guests were absolutely fascinated by being part of something different. The framework was something recognizable (bride, groom, ceremony, rings) but the details were different enough to keep everyone completely attentive through the entire event. We absolutely trusted that when people showed up, they would embrace the journey –- and they did.
3. Provide a detailed hand over to your wedding party earlier than you think you should.
I know this sounds really corporate, to have a hand over meeting. But if you have an offbeat wedding, you may need to pass the reins over to someone else earlier than you think you need to.
In most of our cases, we have someone in our lives we can trust and who has been part of the planning process with you every step of the way. In my case, it was my two sisters. However, they were still sort of on the periphery until the day I sat down with them (about two weeks before the wedding) and went through a very detailed, exhaustive document with all my thoughts about how the day would run.
Bless my sisters for printing these documents out, scribbling their notes all over them and delivering the most seamless day an event planner ever could have hoped for. And bless them for also sharing this with the onsite coordinator… and all the ushers. I absolutely know that if I hadn’t given them enough time to own the process on their own, it wouldn’t have worked as well as it did.